Elements of Romance

"The life and love we create is the life and love we live." - Leo F. Buscaglia

~Most people know that I am a hopeless romantic. I choose to be in love with something everyday :) I look for inspiration in everything and anything LOL...This is me! which leads me to share three "elements" that were shared with me regarding romance. Breath of life, which is our health and essence, Fire of life, which is our vitality (life force energy), and Water of life, which is the flow and function of ourselves. The dictionary meaning of romance states: a love affair, Ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people; love; A mysterious or fascinating quality or appeal, as of something adventurous, heroic, or strangely beautiful. Ardent emotional attachment or a mysterious quality or appeal? My favorite parts of the definition by far.

As far as the elements:  Breath of life, which is what we contribute to a relationship our emotional, physical, mental health and our true nature of who we are with our gifts and flaws. The symbolic way of how we truly breathe in life, what meaning we give to it, and how we see ourselves. This element is the foundation of all relationships as it is important to have transparency, honesty, and integrity. Most people often lie or deceive others of who they are or on how they breathe life due to unresolved emotional health issues or mental ideas that have created a story that the self has believed. Sigh...Breathing in life is how we keep our hearts and feelings alive! Very important when creating romance with another person.

Fire of life, which is one of my favorites!!! Our sexual and creative energy the passion within us that gives our lives purpose. The fierce fire that keeps us moving, the fire that allows us to dive in all emotions and experience the depths of life! The inner drive that motivates us, the creative juices that run through are bodies to continue to create and build joy, pleasure, and abundance in our life.

Water of life, the flow, how we interact with others within the relationship, how we react, how we reflect our internal world outwardly. Trusting the process and allowing things flow naturally in relationships is not an easy task as manipulation and control always comes into play. There are always perceptions of what roles individuals 'should' be playing or doing? This is where being authentic is vital, showing who you are and making the choice to accept yourself and others as you relate and grow. It is important to honor yourself every step of the way. That's how we learn how to function, trust and embrace who we are.

Self affirm, self sustain, self assure

Awareness

~One of my most cherished teacher, mentor and an extraordinary Healer, John Schultz said to me once, "Its just information and an opportunity to become more self aware"~

"This pain is not to make you sad, remember. That's where people go on missing...This pain is just to make you more alert--because people become alert only when the arrow goes deep into their heart and wounds them. Otherwise they don't become alert. When life is easy, comfortable, convenient, who cares? Who bothers to become alert? When a friend dies, there is a possibility. When your woman leaves you alone--those dark nights, you are lonely. You have loved that woman so much and you have staked all, and then suddenly one day she is gone. Crying in your loneliness, those are the occasions when, if you use them, you can become aware. The arrow is hurting: it can be used. The pain is not to make you miserable,the pain is to make you more aware! And when you are aware, misery disappears" ~Osho

~In my personal practice of life, every experience continues to deepen my awareness of myself and how I relate to others. Sigh...In the wisdom of self awareness the energy we continue to obstruct within ourselves allows our mind, our wounds, and our illusion to consume us. I have learned not to take things personally in the walk of life, but also have had the humility to allow myself to become more self aware, At times I do have the occasional learning disability....some experiences are on repeat! There is nothing like the R's: Reflect, Renew, Reclaim, Rejoice, Release....These words have always brought me to a grounded peaceful place as they continue to teach me how the cycles of life are alive within me and that nature auto corrects and makes the necessary changes to evolve and survive. As a energy medicine practitioner, our energy centers "chakras" and energy channels "meridians" serve as communication from our bodies to our mental awareness. When we are ready to confront things mentally the energy that has been trapped and stagnant will create movement and transformation occurs. Energy follows thought  and our bodies are wise vessels that guide our emotions and mental state. Pain, anger, sadness, dis-ease is all information that is making its way from our subconscious to our current conciseness. When we are not ready, the energy will continue to be in excess or deplete itself within your body, but the body as a mindful guide will continue to send us signals until we 'get it'. Our environment will also do this by the lifestyle that we live and what we choose to create around us. Awareness deepens and we are constantly in flux and change.